3/15/2014

And now, a gif of a naked trans woman

Because trans women are beautiful and sexy and we shouldn't have to act like sexless nuns to be accepted as women and should be as free as any cis woman to love our bodies without being accused of being men acting out some sissy fantasy of being sluts.

9/09/2013

A Musing About Riddick and Rape Culture

Okay, so I've just finished watching Riddick. I'd been warned by friends and seen in various reviews that in the third act of the film Riddick does something that would likely upset me. I watched the movie anyway. And I feel a need to address what I've read and been told versus what I saw.

Spoilers below the jump.



7/01/2013

A Disturbing Trend

As the professional hate lobby loses battle after battle in their war on gay tights, and they suck less and less money from donors through fearmongering against gay people, I'm seeing a very unsettling but sadly unsurprising trend.

You see, the hate groups won't admit it publicly, (well, most of them, a few have conceded), but they know they've lost this contrived culture war against gays. They still fire volleys but there's no gunpowder left in those shells.

They know that more and more people actually KNOW real gay people. And knowing real actual flesh and blood gay people dispels all the fearmongering bogeyman stories that the Religious Reich likes to spin to scare the fearful and ignorant into giving them money. They know their donor base is either dying off or waking up.

The problem is that these hateful people, who swear they're not bigots while blatantly lying through their teeth about gay people to sow fear, NEED that donor money to survive, because as hateful and dishonest as they are, there's pretty much NO other way for them to have an income that grants them the life they've built on the backs of gay people. They NEED to have a bogeyman, an intangible "other" they can use to terrify the ignorant into paying for their mansions and caviar.

And so, while trans folks have always had to deal with ignorance and hatred, even FROM gay people, the Religious Reich in the United States has heavily ramped up the transphobic bile of late, stirring up more anti-trans fear than ever before, and it's working.

Articles about trans stories like that of Coy Mathis have always attracted ignorant hateful and stupid people to the comments sections. But of late the transphobic bile has multiplied. Where it used to be reasonably balanced in comment sections between the ignorant haters spouting bile and actual trans folks countering them with facts and reality, lately the haters seem to be drowning us out, overwhelming us with sheer numbers and shouting over us to drown us out. The hate is a flood now and it's difficult to not drown in it. 

And it's Religious Reich hatemongrrs like Tony Perkins, Peter Sprigg, Jennifer Roback Morse, Brian Brown, Peter LaBarbara, and Linda Harvey ramping up the whole "Transsexuals are just men in dresses who want to rape your women and children in bathrooms!!!" Meme that has caused this sudden surge in trans hate.

You'll note they almost never discus trans MEN when they spout their bile. Trans men don't even exist in their eyes.

And that makes it even more important now more than ever for us to stand up to these professional bullies, to counter their every lie with the truth, to dissect their dishonest fearmongering with facts and reality.

To show the world we matter as much as anyone else and have every bit as much right as everyone else to be protected from discrimination and abuse under the law. 

No matter how hard it gets, how much bile we have to wade through, how hopeless it often seems, we MUST keep fighting. The Gay lobby isn't going to stick their necks out for us. WE have to fight for our right to exist. 

Because the haters are getting us killed. And we have to disarm their transphobic bile as the gays did their homophobic bile, and render their bigotry impotent and powerless. 

Because the alternative is just rolling over and dying. And that is no alternative at all.

5/15/2013

A Banner Week

It's turning out to be a banner week for me.

My e-mail stalker trying to encourage my suicide, telling me how gross and disgusting and fat I am, demanding I provide proof of my "bullshit claims" of Queer Porn modelling because HE doesn't believe it.

The misogyinst pig on Pulse Wrestling who now trolls me all around the site to call me a stupid bitch whatever I post, because I intelligently and articulately destroyed him repeatedly and sexist infantile crap is all he can reply with.

Sexist idiots on a mansplaining article telling me how they don't have to listen to anything I say or take me seriously because my pic shows cleavage, therefore nothing I say carries any weight and I'm probably just a rambling airhead who didn't understand the article.

Particularly stupid Pro-Choicers who think being as gross, rude and classless as possible when talking about abortion is the greatest possible way to fight the Anti-Choicers attacking me as being a meek stupid carpet who doesn't understand how activism works.

And a skeptical lazy idiot doubting my bbeing intersexed and asking me to name my particular intersex condition, even though I had already done so in the comment he was replying to.

Apparently wanting to NOT be a blatantly offensive cunt and therefore stoop to the level of the oppressors makes me a weak carpet. Apparently being open and honest about my body's defects automatically makes me suspect. Apparently possessing tits and not keeping them hidden like an 18th century schoolmarm magically renders my intellect non-existent. Apparently not blindly agreeing with a raving moron makes me a stupid bitch. And apparently being fat and NOT hiding under my blankets every day crying about how gross I am means I'm doing something evil and must be encouraged to kill myself so shallow men don't have to see a strong confidant fat bitch get more pussy than them.

Sorry but FUCK that noise.

I will make more people listen to reason with tact and class than rampant aggressive vulgarity, and save the "Fucks" for when they're needed.

I will continue to talk openly about my body and what was done to it when I was a baby.

I will tell sexist pigs what they're doing wrong even if I'm showing cleavage.

I will continue to trounce the moron who calls me stupid by politely and articulately destroying his arguments leaving him with only insults as a rebuttal.

And I will continue to be goddamn beautiful and fabulous even when shallow basement dwelling mouth-breathers who are likely still virgins and can't get a woman without cash up front rage at me because more women want me than will ever even LOOK at them.

I am Penny. I have survived things that would break most people. I have earned every single scar. I am intelligent and wise. And I am fucking BEAUTIFUL.

DEAL WITH IT.

4/30/2013

Militant Atheist Skeptics Are As Bad As Fundies

If anyone wonders why my activism when it comes to dealing with anti-gay religious right bullies very specifically attacks ONLY the bullies themselves and their misrepresentation of their faith, rather than the faith itself or it's followers as a whole, it's because I acknowledge a simple universal truth; I cannot prove my faith is true anymore than I can prove definitively theirs is not, just as a Christian cannot prove definitively THEIR faith is true and MINE is not. No one can prove either one either way. I CAN prove, by simply reading the Bible, when a bigot is intentionally abusing his or her faith to justify hatred falsely, but I cannot prove or disprove that the Christian God exists, nor my own Goddesses. Christians believe in Christ, I believe in Hedon and her daughters.

Why am I bringing this up? Because of the one belief I WILL openly attack; Aggressive Atheism.

Not the average Atheist who simply doesn't believe in Gods or the supernatural and spiritual but respects others' rights to believe otherwise. I mean the truly aggressive douchebag skeptics. The ones who actively campaign to scold, tease, mock, attack and belittle those who believe in ANYTHING that isn't tangible. The ones who are every bit the equal of the worst fundamentalist Christians and Muslims. The ones who think ONLY what THEY believe (or disbelieve) is the absolute truth and everyone else needs to fucking fall in line buster!

As my dear friend Katie can attest, there most certainly ARE Christians who are perfectly content to believe in Christ AND let me believe in Hedon. She's a leader in her church. I believe she's ordained in fact. But she has never ONCE dismissed MY beliefs, or told me I'm wrong or sinful to not share HERS. Nor have I ever felt any need to criticize hers. She does me no harm, I shall do her none in kind. Simply mutual courtesy. I have NO problem with people like HER.

Conversely I also know Atheists who are like her. They believe there are NO Gods, no reincarnation, nothing of the kind, but they are perfectly content to let those who DO believe, well, believe.

I have no issue with THEM either.

I have issue with bullies.

On the side of belief, I hate Christian or Muslim bullies who try to shove their beliefs down everyone else's throat, who demand EVERYONE believe as they do, and ONLY as they do.

On the side of DISbelief, I hate the militant aggressive Atheists, who think NO ONE anywhere should believe in ANYTHING intangible. No God, no Goddess, no spirits, no NOTHING. The aggressive skeptics who feel a need to inject themselves into every conversation and talk down to believers like we're idiot children.

I don't give a flying fuck what anyone else believes, as long as they a) keep it mostly to themselves, and don't try to force it on me, and b) respect MY right to believe different.

I don't shove my faith down anyone's throat. That's actually one of my faith's few rules; Don't force it on others. I only talk about it if asked.

But I WILL not tolerate another human being, whatever THEIR beliefs or lack thereof, talking down to me like I'm an idiot for believing differently, and trying to force me to believe like them. If I believe I have lived past lives and that Earth has a soul and her children were Goddesses co-opted by other ancient religions how does that hurt you? I'm doing no harm, I'm minding my own business, and I'm not telling YOUR children what a flake YOU are because you don't believe in MY faith, so why the hell is it okay for YOU to do it to me?

I am NOT a flake or a kook or an idiot or a sinner or a blasphemer because my faith is not yours, OR for having a faith at all when you may not.

Seriously, fuck militant skeptics. They're as big a pain in the ass as fundies. Science does NOT mean "If we haven't conclusively proven it yet it's bullshit", nor does it mean "Well, we can't 100% conclusively DISPROVE this thing, so we'll round off and chalk it up as bullshit" either. Science means exploring the unknown, NOT dismissing it.

4/16/2013

RadFem Training Hive Goes Down?

The Vancouver Rape Relief website is gone.

Vancouver Rape Relief is a supposed Rape Cris & Counseling service, but they have a LONG and documented history of abusive treatment towards ANY woman who doesn't fit what they define as a proper woman.

When I was going to WAVAW for counseling they had THREE FULL BINDERS of NOTHING but womens' complaints about being treated like shit at VRR.

- Punk rock girls who were slut-shamed
- Fat women accused of attention seeking
- Party girls told to dress like ladies
- Trans women outright told to get the fuck out.
- Ftms and butch lesbians told to come back when they learn how to be women.

I once called VRR for crisis counseling, before I knew their rep. The woman I was talking to openly laughed at me, told me to clear the line for "real" victims, and hung up on me.

I would normally never gloat at the failing of a rape shelter crisis agency, but they have NEVER been that. They were a professional RadFem breeding ground and brainwashing centre.

If this means they've finally been shut down? HAPPY PENNY.

4/12/2013

The "Funny" Thing About RadFems

Funny thing about the RadScum, (funny migraine, not funny ha-ha), that perpetuate this bullshit idea that only "womyn born womyn count as women and trans women are just deluded mutilated frauds trying to violate womens' spaces?

They're NOT feminists, they're TERRORISTS. By the very definition of the word. They cause chaos and spread fear, and openly advocate and enable murder to further their cause. I've seen several RadScum not only openly say all trans women should be murdered, but most cis men, and even culling male children.

REAL feminism is about achieving true equality for ALL the sexes and genders.

RadScum "feminism" is about genocide and exclusion. And they halve the balls to say Trans women make them feel unsafe? The worst I've EVER seen a trans woman do to a radscum was angrily say something like "Please go die in a fire", AFTER being shat on and pushed and goaded beyond belief, whereas RadScum have actively sought and concretely worked to get Trans Women exposed to very real risk of beatings or even being murdered.

Bug Brennan for example, pretty much calls all men and all trans people rapists, but look at her personality. She's MASSIVELY overbearing, tries to dominate everything and everyone she encouters, trans AND cis, pushy, demanding, no empathy or respect for others' feelings.

I would bet CASH MONEY there are women out there who have been raped BY Bug. She shows all the hallmarks of an abuser.

RadScum in general show all the hallmarks of classic bigotry;

- Blind vehement and blatant hatred for an oppressed group, repeated denial of that hatred in spite how how blatantly obvious their own words make it ,
(Examples; referring to trans women as deluded mutilated men, clearly a hateful statement, which they will often, when directly confronted about it, backpedal by insisting they really care about the poor deluded men and just want to help them stop being so deluded and learn to be happy as men).

- Always quick to play the victim while accusing the real victims of being the real aggressors,
(Accusing trans women of forcing their way into women's spaces, wanting to rape cis women, us commandeering every conversation instead of them, and swearing up and down they're afraid we'll hurt them).

- A clearly deluded belief that they speak for everyone, that almost everyone believes exactly as they do, and those who don't are either just lying to themselves or "too afraid to speak up".
(Example; Claiming that all people are secretly disgusted by trans women, and those who support us only do so out of misguided pity, not any genuine acceptance, and one particular RadScum who inexplicably claimed that most women hate penetration and those who say they do are just not being honest with themselves).

- And finally, mistaking the right to free speech such as the right to SAY "I hate trans women and I think they're gross", with the right to force their beliefs into law.
(Example; Bug Brennan ceaselessly and tirelessly working to oppose implentation of ANY law that is supportive and/or protective of trans people, and actively campaigning to make even just BEING trans illegal).

Take those last four signs of bigotry I just detailed, and apply them to any of the anti-gay hate groups, such as NOM or the AFA. I garauntee you will easily find multiple examples of all of those Bigot Hallmarks. And RadScum display each and every one.

But while Anti-GAY hatemongers like Tony Perkins or Brian Brown are very careful to never openly directly say "Kill all the fags", RadScum have NO compunctions whatsoever about openly and frequently condoning and even actively wanting the deaths of trans women.

RadScum, Radical Feminists, are the terrorists in our midst. And they don't even TRY to hide it.